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I have never been a girly girl. Growing up, my best friends were always boys, I liked to climb trees, ride my Knight Rider Big Wheel, and have summer snowball fights with cow poop. Yeah, that last one sounds interesting, doesn’t it? A story for another day.
As an adult, not much changed…well, except for the cow poop fights. My best friends are still male and I just don’t gravitate to spending money on fashion nor do I wear a lot of makeup. I also have never bought a designer purse, unless you count my crazy NYC experience buying a knock-off for the thrill of the experience. I am sure you are now like, okay Renee, we get it, we won’t catch you watching The Kardashians.
After my breast cancer diagnosis, I felt like any feminity I had was stolen away prematurely. I have lost a significant chunk of my right breast that I affectionately now call Frankin-boob to two partial mastectomies. I also went into medically-induced menopause at 36 and had a full hysterectomy prior to reaching 37, leaving me a beautiful second belly button in addition to the 7 other scars that breast cancer surgeries left as a reminder.
I don’t share all of this to garner your pity. There are so many women like myself who have felt their feminity was stolen away, and it isn’t always something like breast cancer. It took me some time and I have a ways to go. I still do not like my husband to touch my breasts, I don’t know that I ever will. I didn’t like it much pre-cancer, to be honest. I have however found ways to indulge and celebrate my feminity.
Back in the summer of last year, I spent a little money, and I say little because I still was shopping at places like TJMaxx and Ross, but I bought myself a very feminine summer clothing collection. I think I spent a total of $100 maybe and scored several very cute outfits, but it made me feel good. I also decided to spend my Ebates refund on a FabFitFun box.
I now have put it in my budget to apply all of my Ebates refunds to the quarterly subscription of my FabFitFun box. It is something that makes me feel fabulously feminine! Whether it is using my jade roller on my face to stimulate relaxation or my charcoal champagne body scrub and detox brush to detox and rejuvenate my skin, I won’t give it up because it helps me connect to that divine feminine energy and no matter what our background or story is, every woman deserves to feel fabulously feminine. I encourage all of you to Be Your Own Kind of Beautiful and find what makes you feel fabulous.
